Having always got many compliments for my oral skills in both my personal and professional life, and always overcome the challenges of those who said oh I never come from Blow Jobs - I could not understand what anyone did wrong.
So I started asking - what is it other women do wrong?
The attitude was an issue and lack of variation or finesse was in there too.
Why are you giving head? Because you should? Because they would like it? Because you were asked?
WRONG
You should be doing it because you want to. The why you may want to could vary, but for me I like to show off, I like the power trip, I can have a man quivering, staring at me open-mouthed with a mixed look of disbelief, frustration and ecstasy. I know this is my best way to provide pleasure. I feel like the star of the show, I'll make the porno faces and watch him record them for later - I know he will remember how sexy I looked doing that, I like to be remembered.
Perhaps a blow job should be foreplay - but I think often for me it is the main course - and the rest an encore, perhaps many curtain calls to a standing ovation that cannot be denied.
The Foreplay -
To me leads to it, working your way down each other bodies - going toward, but then changing direction. Perhaps a light hand touch, or maybe warm breath or a tiny lick. If he still has pants on - forming a kind of seal against the fabric, and breathing out heavily, a few times in a row can make the area a lot warmer than you may expect. I nice electric blanket wakeup call to his friend in his pants.
The Look -
Before you even pay it much physical attention when it has been released to the open air, look at it, not like a scientist (unless that's the role-play) but with admiration and lust - you should want it, almost like an animal regarding its prey. It is a tool of power, it is the best control method and pleasure provider you can have access to physically on him. You should be impressed for what you can use it for - even if you not impressed by its stature, shape or colour - those are not it's most important attributes.
The Approach -
I'm never a fan of going straight for it, but making him think I am, and waiting for the little sigh of disappointment when he realises I wasn't. Ill stop short of it, graze past and be kissing the opposite side of his hip while he tries to make the most out of the contact with my hair or my neck. I like to straddle one of his legs, and rub myself against it, while pouring oil down my front from a great height so it splatters a bit, then rub it all over my breasts so they shine. Keep eye contact, and let him see my wicked streak, as I move very controlled, deliberately and slowly to lower my slippery breasts around his dick. Resting on one elbow, and using the other against my breasts, rub him between them, massage him, slide up and down. Down far enough he can feel my breath on the tip, and up far enough he can almost kiss me as I slide all over his chest, and use the soft part of my inner hip to grind against him. Slide back down and grab him with one hand, rubbing him all over my breasts, maybe a little jerking action, it depends if he needs extra encouragement but at this stage most are standing to attention.
The Interlude -
We take a short break, for kissing, for him going down on me, for a bit of grinding, all with enough hand action in there to keep his friends attention.
The Second Approach -
Kissing, nibbling, licking, sucking up his inner thighs, doing tongue circles in the ever sensitive and often ignored leg-pit, licking and very gently sucking the ball on the same side, maybe taking it into mouth if it will fit comfortably and there is enough give in the scrotum. Repeat on other side, varying the movement and pace.
Then I like to sit up sharply, pushing my knees apart, which also forces the legs apart, an evil or devious expression at this point serves well to remind him he is at my will. I love to see him squirm with a mix of fear, anticipation and realising how vulnerable he is to whatever I decide I want to do with him. I use my nails, which I keep long and blunt, to tickle all around his inner thighs, balls and taint. Lick my palm from heel to fingertips then slide it along his length. Sliding both hands, along and down inner thighs, forcing them further apart, I start doing tiny circles on his taint, right along the seam. I continue follow the seam up and over his balls and all the way up the shaft. He should be rock hard, bucking his hips and dripping some pre-cum by this stage, when i reach the tip - I dip my tongue in to the sticky droplet that has formed and make a little string of it stretch to my mouth.
Then I dive back in for a second run of tiny circles up, this time maybe adding some other kisses, sucks and licks as I travel. At the top I may make some motions as if I am about to start sucking, taking just the tip in, or moving over it with a wide open mouth but making no contact.
Maybe I will go for a 3rd time, or maybe I will do some porno face style licking all the way up on side of the shaft while cradling it in the other hand, never breaking eye contact. Or circle the tip with my tongue and make long wet spit strands, then go the 3rd round of seam circles.
The Plunge -
Lips thoroughly moistened, a firm but not excessive pressure suction and slide the whole length into the mouth, this is best when he is not sure if you will just tease again or not. Teeth are always covered by lips or tongue, assume he is not into teeth unless he informs you otherwise. I use the tongue to do circles focusing toward the frenulum as I withdraw. Also as I withdraw I twist my neck to make my mouth spiral around the shaft, and then bring my hand into the action, having it spiral the other way.
I may then continue with the reverse spiral for a while, moving up and down as tongue and hand circle in same direction with hand lagging just behind in the pace, as head and mouth move the opposite direction.
I may change to a fast up and down with a higher level of suction, bouncing his hips on the bed with my hands on either side on the mattress.
I may take him in as deep as i can, flexing the back part of tongue and throat muscles around him, before quickly sliding up and then moving my head in figure 8 pattern, swinging my hair wildly before removing my mouth with a pop, as I gasp for air.
I may tighten my lips and press them against the tip slowly allowing him entry, emulating a tight never used hole, slowly slide down is length, loosening my lips as i go, then withdrawing without any lip contact at all, just using my tongue along the underside. Then reverse the pattern sliding in with tongue only contact and pulling out with strong tight suction.
I may go back to some of the earlier teasing moves from earlier, for a short time or a long time depending on how I feel and how he is responding.
The Optional bridge -
Switch back to stimulation with oily breasts, the sliding up, far enough for some good deep french kissing, and sliding down and into my mouth in a single movement. Deep suck with some tongue swirling, as I withdraw as quickly as I took it in, moving back to meet his mouth with mine. I keep rhythm with the up and down sliding motion of my body but increase pace until staying down with my mouth where he wants it more.
The Ascent -
I keep rhythm and build pace slowly, before dropping back to as slow movements as possible, and gradually building pace again. I stick with the reverse spiral technique I described earlier mostly, but vary parts of it, the hand or tongue, possible none of either or just one. If I need a slight breather, switch to some of the teasing moves. I build him up and up switching back to almost stopped as he gets ever closer.
The Cycle -
I feel his twitches, the pulsing of blood pressure in his cock, his breathing pattern. I study his responses as I pleasure him, I know when he will be ready, when he feels he is starting that final climb and snatch him back from it. I go back, maybe even as far as the first approach, and begin the build up a new, I pick and choose what moves to use, from how he responded before. I always keep a good rhythm regardless of tempo I choose. I work back toward the ascent - this time we climb higher. I drop back to just teasing - maybe I will barely brush his most sensitive areas, I might move up to his neck and ears, hovering my body just above his, so he can barely even get to grind against me, unless I so choose.
How many times I go through the tease and ascend pattern will vary on how I feel, and how he is responding. I want to feel he is going crazy, that he can not consider anything else, that he is begging me, that the cycle back to teasing is met with grunts of extreme frustration possibly even a drawn out no of disappointment and frustration.
The Final Ascent -
He should never know if this will be the final one, or just another tease. I want to feel him urging himself on, trying to hide his responses to trick me into putting him over the edge, to hold himself back to prove he isn't being fooled. I want him lost, capable of nothing but feeling. I start a building race reverse spiral and just keep climbing the pace 'til it is at the maximum practical and comfortable pace. The "oh" should escape his lips at this moment as he reaches the point of no return, if he isn't quite there he will go back onto the cycle - or maybe he will anyway, how wicked do i feel? If he is going to get release the pace remains steady, my other hand explores his balls and puts pressure on his perineum, my tongue works frantically as he releases into my mouth.
The Afterglow -
I continue to hold the cum in my mouth as I wind down my movements. Sometimes I blow bubbles with it just to show off, or I swallow it down and go searching for any spillages. I move my hand along his softening shaft in a milking motion to squeeze out any remaining drops. This is good for two reasons, one I wont miss out on any, and two it stops him getting the I must pee right now feeling if the tube is cleared. A gentle massage, and a progressive grip adding just one finger at a time to the grab in succession and removing in same order and repeating - the same pattern as when you tap your fingers on a desk while waiting, but instead of a tap it is a gentle grab. If you are feeling particularly indulgent, you may get a very warm -not hot - wet face towel and dab him clean, drying him with another towel.
Snuggle up as he recovers, possibly to start the encore.
