Private Sydney Escort - Melanie of Sydney

Dear Judgemental Just Salvos Director..

Wow I just love waking up to links to blogs which deride my existence and feelings. [sarcasm meter alert] What is it with people who take the moral high ground in the name of social justice and openly walk all over sectors of the community at the same time? Hypocrisy in it's finest and sickening form. Danielle Strickland is someone who seems to be all over that. On the blog for The Social Justice department of the Salvation Army you will find this blog

You will also see my lengthy response if it is not removed - but I'll include it here below what she wrote about sex workers - so you don't need to give their website the traffic. Please note all that in italics is the views of Danielle Strickland and not my own. She published the following publicly on at least 2 blogs. I strongly oppose the vast majority of her views as you will see after her judgemental misguided drivel.

I'm sorry.

I'm learning more and more about the essentials of free speech lately.
I've been part of speaking tour called Sex On Demand (and pretty busy - which is why I haven't blogged lately - sorry!)... none the less the speaking tour has been with a guy named Victor Malarek who has recently written a book called 'The John's: sex for sale and the men who buy it'.
Victor is very passionate about trying to limit and indeed shut down the sex industry - the people who profit from women 'for sale'. Victor points out the reality - when you legitimize the commodification of women's bodies you perpetuate the growing evil of the global sex trade and contribute to inequality.

Thankfully this is supported by The Salvation Army Internationally (see the positional statement on human trafficking which suggests that we combat both the commodification of women - the sex industry. AND the demand for sex - men who buy it).

Apparently the 'sex industry' was insulted by the advertisement for the speaking tour. I've attached it here for you to have a look at. The reality is that when you make women's bodies commodities, no matter how you 'dress it up' it is degrading.
It's not the poster you should be offended with - it's the reality.

So, to the sex industry I say that I am deeply sorry. I'm sorry for the hundreds of thousands of women and children that are exploited into sexual servitude EVERY YEAR - I'm sorry for the equality of women being hijacked and set aside by people who desire money over freedom. I'm sorry for the future generations that grow up believing that subjugation and humiliation are 'empowerment'. I'm sorry that I've been quiet for this long and I'm sorry that I haven't offended you more often. I'm sorry that I've been apathetic and indifferent to the plight of women stuck in the grinding poverty and the gradual death of their bodies and souls as a result of this prostitution.

Not only am I sorry - but I'm repentant. I'm going to change my ways. I'm going to speak up more. I'm going to remind society of the costs to real women with real names and real lives who live as virtual prisoners to men who demand sex and use their economic power to get it - at great costs. I'm going to remind myself of the names and faces of women and children who suffer the real pain of sexual servitude... the young 12 year old girl in Tasmania who was raped by over 100 men - pimped out by her own mother... the 14 year old boys charged with gang rape as they re-inacted what they watched the 'sex industry' pump out as 'normal behaviour' on the internet... the young girls lured into prostitution from TV shows that glamorize the life of prostitutes and LIE to bolster their industry at the expense of the innocence of girls and the health of society.

So, let it be known. I'm sorry. And I've changed my ways. I determine to stand up, speak up, and fight for a society that protects it's most vulnerable and disadvantaged citizens. I determine to protect and serve women and children who have been exploited from economically poor conditions to sexual slavery in Australia (they say this is a better life!). I determine to set my sights on a day where Australia and the rest of the world will believe deep within their hearts that women and children ARE NOT FOR SALE. Where men are held accountable for violence against women - ALL women. And where little children are taught the value and dignity of every human being!

Grace
Danielle

My Response

I'm learning more and more about the sickening nature of some peoples idea of free speech lately. When it is used to stand up for your right this is one thing, when you are using it to impinge on others, make judgement, defame and harass - I'd rather it didn't exist. Thanks so much for reminding me of the latter.

The women are not for sale, they provide services for money - the same as anyone who has paid employment does. A sex worker as a person s no more for rent than is someone who washes your car, or fixes your busted pipe in your house. Try and remember that, or perhaps you feel you in your paid employment (which I am assuming here you have) you rent your body and mind to perform the tasks required rather than consider you perform the tasks required for your wage. It is a very different notion.

I note you ignore the existence of male sex workers - don't fit into your argument do they? You ignore the women who purchase the services of sex workers, be the sex worker male, female or trans*

Before you start with but oh that's not the majority of the industry, it is part of it - do not ignore peoples existence its inherently rude and despicable.

You may find that its not some emotionless soulless industry that was insulted, it was sex workers who were insulted by the advertisement - real people, with lives, feelings, emotions. Real people who value their skills and the work they do, the happiness they provide to others through their actions. Do you value providing happiness through your actions - it doesn't seem so with such an attack shrouded as an apology blog for having such a poor narrow minded attitude.

Sex workers are people providing a service, they do not consider themselves some meat for sale. By supporting the poster design indicates you do consider sex workers meat. It is you doing the commodification of flesh. Not the workers who use their skills, and not the clients who appreciate and value the skills sex workers have.

Is catering to someone else's wants and needs of your own free will subjugation and humiliation. if you consider it is, be careful when you next dare open the door for someone, help them carry something or do anything that they want that you were happy to agree to help by using your physical skills and your body as a tool for that.

Perhaps you should apologise to each individual sex worker you upset not the industry, you keep ignoring sex workers are people.

You claim death of sex workers souls. people who cater to what may make a day brighter for someone, people who recognise other people as being worthy of their attention and care, and make this their work. To you I am sorry you must have no soul. I wish I could give you one. I'm sorry people will read your drivel and feel disenfranchised about humanity that judgemental people like you exist. I am sorry you think that offending anyone is something you should strive to do. I'm sorry you consider a sector of our community not to be people worthy of dignity. I am sorry you consider another whole sector of our community to not even exist. I am sorry you consider the lonely, the disabled as exploitative and unworthy of human affection.

Not only am I sorry, but I am proactive. I will continue to challenge the small minded who go through life with blinkers on, to see sex workers as people who deserve equal rights. I will challenge those people not to see sex workers as commodities, but as people as most of our clients do. I am going to remind society that sex is a joyous act shared, not something that is degrading. I will remind myself of the names and faces of those who judge my lifestyle as lesser, and remind myself they are hypocritical by doing more judging than the rest, and remind myself that society will be a poorer place while these people continue to expound uninsightful drivel. I will strive to bring these people to elucidation of how just because they wouldn't want something doesn't mean others don't.

I will not deny that there are some cases such as the Tasmanian one you refer to that are abhorrent - but the fact that that does on attests more to the people who force their child to do anything against their will, more than it does to people who willing perform services. If they had forced their child sew tshirts would you call and end to the textile industry ? Is the demand for shirts worth that - you wouldn't make that claim - but yeh in a way you are just directing it differently.

So let it be known - i stand in my place. I am determined to continue to stand up for my rights, my co workers rights, and sex worker rights and fight for a society that sees sex workers as people, values their rights, their skills and what they contribute to society. I am determined to protect and serve sex workers who are judged, degraded and emotionally attacked by people who seek to deride their rights, see sex workers as victims and not the proud skilled people they are, be it through their work or how they choose to live their life. I am determined to set my sights on a day where Australia and the rest of the world will believe deep in their hearts, sex workers are not for sale, they sell their services and have respect for them. Where perpetrators of such hate writing of this are held accountable and brought to justice for the attacks they make on our sector of the community. Where people understand the value and dignity of every human being is not lessened because of an industry they choose to work in.

I do not deny there are some but far in the minority who are not in the industry of their choice, and I believe in supporting anyone to be in a place they want to be, regardless of what the circumstance is. the sex industry is not the only location of this in our society. To empower those people to have their lives as they want. It would be nice if yo did not deny or ignore the majority of sex workers in Australia who are not exploited and perfectly satisfied with how they are. Surely you can afford people such respect and dignity? I will assume if you edit, censor or do not publish my reply that you are comfortable in your oppression of a sex workers voice, and consider I am not valued enough by you to allow my voice to be heard.

Is twitter a substitute for a proper news post...

You'd certainly think I thought so based of the dates in between. If twitter is micro-blogging, and normal logging is macro-blogging - perhaps news is semi-interesting middy-blogging. I think I just coined that phrase. (Coined means you started it people, all you TV types and politicians it doesn't mean reusing a phrase, that's to use a cliché)

Site updates I must admit are a bit thin, there is a highly interesting blowjob related blog entry however. Twitter updates come in bursts -and that's pretty much it. I have been spoiled - lavished with attention and lovely visitors - and neglecting all else. This is set to change and yeh yeh I hear your sighs of disbelief, but look forward to a survey with awesome pries of half priced bookings or a chance at a free double booking with Jayde and myself.

Melanie of Sydney Blow Job Method

Having always got many compliments for my oral skills in both my personal and professional life, and always overcome the challenges of those who said oh I never come from Blow Jobs - I could not understand what anyone did wrong.

So I started asking - what is it other women do wrong?
The attitude was an issue and lack of variation or finesse was in there too.

Why are you giving head? Because you should? Because they would like it? Because you were asked?

WRONG

You should be doing it because you want to. The why you may want to could vary, but for me I like to show off, I like the power trip, I can have a man quivering, staring at me open-mouthed with a mixed look of disbelief, frustration and ecstasy. I know this is my best way to provide pleasure. I feel like the star of the show, I'll make the porno faces and watch him record them for later - I know he will remember how sexy I looked doing that, I like to be remembered.

Perhaps a blow job should be foreplay - but I think often for me it is the main course - and the rest an encore, perhaps many curtain calls to a standing ovation that cannot be denied.

The Foreplay -
To me leads to it, working your way down each other bodies - going toward, but then changing direction. Perhaps a light hand touch, or maybe warm breath or a tiny lick. If he still has pants on - forming a kind of seal against the fabric, and breathing out heavily, a few times in a row can make the area a lot warmer than you may expect. I nice electric blanket wakeup call to his friend in his pants.

The Look -
Before you even pay it much physical attention when it has been released to the open air, look at it, not like a scientist (unless that's the role-play) but with admiration and lust - you should want it, almost like an animal regarding its prey. It is a tool of power, it is the best control method and pleasure provider you can have access to physically on him. You should be impressed for what you can use it for - even if you not impressed by its stature, shape or colour - those are not it's most important attributes.

The Approach -
I'm never a fan of going straight for it, but making him think I am, and waiting for the little sigh of disappointment when he realises I wasn't. Ill stop short of it, graze past and be kissing the opposite side of his hip while he tries to make the most out of the contact with my hair or my neck. I like to straddle one of his legs, and rub myself against it, while pouring oil down my front from a great height so it splatters a bit, then rub it all over my breasts so they shine. Keep eye contact, and let him see my wicked streak, as I move very controlled, deliberately and slowly to lower my slippery breasts around his dick. Resting on one elbow, and using the other against my breasts, rub him between them, massage him, slide up and down. Down far enough he can feel my breath on the tip, and up far enough he can almost kiss me as I slide all over his chest, and use the soft part of my inner hip to grind against him. Slide back down and grab him with one hand, rubbing him all over my breasts, maybe a little jerking action, it depends if he needs extra encouragement but at this stage most are standing to attention.

The Interlude -
We take a short break, for kissing, for him going down on me, for a bit of grinding, all with enough hand action in there to keep his friends attention.

The Second Approach -
Kissing, nibbling, licking, sucking up his inner thighs, doing tongue circles in the ever sensitive and often ignored leg-pit, licking and very gently sucking the ball on the same side, maybe taking it into mouth if it will fit comfortably and there is enough give in the scrotum. Repeat on other side, varying the movement and pace.

Then I like to sit up sharply, pushing my knees apart, which also forces the legs apart, an evil or devious expression at this point serves well to remind him he is at my will. I love to see him squirm with a mix of fear, anticipation and realising how vulnerable he is to whatever I decide I want to do with him. I use my nails, which I keep long and blunt, to tickle all around his inner thighs, balls and taint. Lick my palm from heel to fingertips then slide it along his length. Sliding both hands, along and down inner thighs, forcing them further apart, I start doing tiny circles on his taint, right along the seam. I continue follow the seam up and over his balls and all the way up the shaft. He should be rock hard, bucking his hips and dripping some pre-cum by this stage, when i reach the tip - I dip my tongue in to the sticky droplet that has formed and make a little string of it stretch to my mouth.

Then I dive back in for a second run of tiny circles up, this time maybe adding some other kisses, sucks and licks as I travel. At the top I may make some motions as if I am about to start sucking, taking just the tip in, or moving over it with a wide open mouth but making no contact.

Maybe I will go for a 3rd time, or maybe I will do some porno face style licking all the way up on side of the shaft while cradling it in the other hand, never breaking eye contact. Or circle the tip with my tongue and make long wet spit strands, then go the 3rd round of seam circles.

The Plunge -
Lips thoroughly moistened, a firm but not excessive pressure suction and slide the whole length into the mouth, this is best when he is not sure if you will just tease again or not. Teeth are always covered by lips or tongue, assume he is not into teeth unless he informs you otherwise. I use the tongue to do circles focusing toward the frenulum as I withdraw. Also as I withdraw I twist my neck to make my mouth spiral around the shaft, and then bring my hand into the action, having it spiral the other way.

I may then continue with the reverse spiral for a while, moving up and down as tongue and hand circle in same direction with hand lagging just behind in the pace, as head and mouth move the opposite direction.

I may change to a fast up and down with a higher level of suction, bouncing his hips on the bed with my hands on either side on the mattress.

I may take him in as deep as i can, flexing the back part of tongue and throat muscles around him, before quickly sliding up and then moving my head in figure 8 pattern, swinging my hair wildly before removing my mouth with a pop, as I gasp for air.

I may tighten my lips and press them against the tip slowly allowing him entry, emulating a tight never used hole, slowly slide down is length, loosening my lips as i go, then withdrawing without any lip contact at all, just using my tongue along the underside. Then reverse the pattern sliding in with tongue only contact and pulling out with strong tight suction.

I may go back to some of the earlier teasing moves from earlier, for a short time or a long time depending on how I feel and how he is responding.

The Optional bridge -
Switch back to stimulation with oily breasts, the sliding up, far enough for some good deep french kissing, and sliding down and into my mouth in a single movement. Deep suck with some tongue swirling, as I withdraw as quickly as I took it in, moving back to meet his mouth with mine. I keep rhythm with the up and down sliding motion of my body but increase pace until staying down with my mouth where he wants it more.

The Ascent -
I keep rhythm and build pace slowly, before dropping back to as slow movements as possible, and gradually building pace again. I stick with the reverse spiral technique I described earlier mostly, but vary parts of it, the hand or tongue, possible none of either or just one. If I need a slight breather, switch to some of the teasing moves. I build him up and up switching back to almost stopped as he gets ever closer.

The Cycle -
I feel his twitches, the pulsing of blood pressure in his cock, his breathing pattern. I study his responses as I pleasure him, I know when he will be ready, when he feels he is starting that final climb and snatch him back from it. I go back, maybe even as far as the first approach, and begin the build up a new, I pick and choose what moves to use, from how he responded before. I always keep a good rhythm regardless of tempo I choose. I work back toward the ascent - this time we climb higher. I drop back to just teasing - maybe I will barely brush his most sensitive areas, I might move up to his neck and ears, hovering my body just above his, so he can barely even get to grind against me, unless I so choose.

How many times I go through the tease and ascend pattern will vary on how I feel, and how he is responding. I want to feel he is going crazy, that he can not consider anything else, that he is begging me, that the cycle back to teasing is met with grunts of extreme frustration possibly even a drawn out no of disappointment and frustration.

The Final Ascent -
He should never know if this will be the final one, or just another tease. I want to feel him urging himself on, trying to hide his responses to trick me into putting him over the edge, to hold himself back to prove he isn't being fooled. I want him lost, capable of nothing but feeling. I start a building race reverse spiral and just keep climbing the pace 'til it is at the maximum practical and comfortable pace. The "oh" should escape his lips at this moment as he reaches the point of no return, if he isn't quite there he will go back onto the cycle - or maybe he will anyway, how wicked do i feel? If he is going to get release the pace remains steady, my other hand explores his balls and puts pressure on his perineum, my tongue works frantically as he releases into my mouth.

The Afterglow -
I continue to hold the cum in my mouth as I wind down my movements. Sometimes I blow bubbles with it just to show off, or I swallow it down and go searching for any spillages. I move my hand along his softening shaft in a milking motion to squeeze out any remaining drops. This is good for two reasons, one I wont miss out on any, and two it stops him getting the I must pee right now feeling if the tube is cleared. A gentle massage, and a progressive grip adding just one finger at a time to the grab in succession and removing in same order and repeating - the same pattern as when you tap your fingers on a desk while waiting, but instead of a tap it is a gentle grab. If you are feeling particularly indulgent, you may get a very warm -not hot - wet face towel and dab him clean, drying him with another towel.

Snuggle up as he recovers, possibly to start the encore.

It's a new year!

Figured I'm due for site updates - I'm not sure of twitter really counts. Evidently I am back at home and business as usual. I don't know if it's the hot weather of just that it's a new year but my my it's been busy of late.

I have a backlog of photos to upload - which as most things is on my long to do list and I may well post pics for my Hong Kong travels.

I am away until 13th December

I will be in Hong Kong until 13th of December, you can leave me voicemail or send me and email if you have any enquires until then :)

Melanie on the radio tonight! Talking Back the night 41 stations nationwide

I rang up and spoke to Jamie McDonald the host of talking back the night - to raise a sex work question to the callers, bit busy last night so I suggested the following night - ie tonight.

The question I want to ask is why if people who have no issues with sex, and no issues with physical labour or working for money, have issues with sex work? People try to claim its because of diseases when in fact Australian Sex workers have one of the lowest STI rates of any group in the world, or people claim workers being forced into the industry when that is certainly not the case for the vast majority, and many trafficked people are into factories or as building labourers and no one tries to outlaw those industries as a solution to the problem.

I had a fairly lengthy chat to Jamie off the air and he was quite curious and honest that he didn’t know much about the industry, and I had to correct him a few times to say sew worker not prostitute. He seems to be open to having sex work as the main topic of the show, and I think it is a fantastic opportunity for some myth busting and wider education, as well as getting information and ripping apart peoples irrational arguments.

If anyone is awake do tune in on your local or online

mms://2go.stream.integritynet.com.au/2go ( open in media player) the call in number is 132710 and it starts about 11pm. I have been given a direct studio line so I wont have to battle the queue.

Website details of the show
Talking Back The Night is a nationwide program that gives you the chance to direct the conversation, listen to new Australian and established musicians and join in debating the issues that are affecting us all.

Talking Back The Night mixes listener interaction with a great variety of music and informative content ranging from daily news, environmental concerns and politics, as well as expert commentary and opinions on diet, lifestyle and entertainment.

Talking Back The Night provides a platform for you to share your thoughts with the nation and is broadcast between 10pm and 3am (EST time) Sunday through Thursday to 41 regional stations across NSW, QLD, VIC, WA, SA and TAS.

Jamie McDonald hails from Liverpool, England – a place where they're called “Liverpudlians” and “Scousers”. Liverpool also has a reputation as a Port City – we don't think they mean the drink, but considering it attracts a wide range of people, cultures and religions - you would be forgiven for thinking so!

Life didn't begin in radio for Jamie. At the age of 15, his first job was working at guest houses in the Celtic region of the British Isles known as Isle of Man. Loving the work so much, he moved on to a role as chef and worked his way to the position of Head Chef at La Saulire Hotel in the French Alps. This provided Jamie with the opportunity to mingle with aristocracy on their private yachts and in the homes of the rich and famous.

Jamie has since traveled the world on the back of his many skills including; “cheffing”, journalism and radio, with the sole intention of getting the most out of life and crossing paths with as many people as possible!

Jamie has a BA (Hons) Media from Manchester Metropolitan University and a post graduate journalism diploma from France, but that all pales in comparison to the achievements he has had in radio. He has been an Announcer and/or Executive Producer for Radio St Tropez France, Europe 2 France, Triple M Brisbane & Sydney, 612 ABC Brisbane, 96FM Perth, ARN Brisbane & Melbourne and Macquarie Southern Cross Media.

Now back and enjoying sunny Queensland, Jamie looks forward to hearing your thoughts and opinions on the everyday issues discussed on Talking Back The Night.

Memory of Melanie

Due to popular demand, relaxed privacy concerns and just being nice. I am now including/allowing 1 or 2 photos to be taken on your mobile phone, of me within your booking. You wont have a model release so you can't go posting them up online without permission. If you'd like permission, just ask and I may well allow it depending on content, and I may require a watermark.

Additional photos, photos on "real" cameras and video will still attract a fee as usual.

You can take the picture in your session of anything you like;

Posed shots
Spanish
My bits and pieces
Toys with my bits and pieces
Climax expressions
Blowjobs images - with spit strings or money shot - that's the Facial if your opt for that as opposed to me fully clothed taking the envelope off you at the beginning of the session :)

Publishing Images and showing images are different things. With some chatting to some lovely gentlemen online I came up with an additional concept. I figured people are likely to share/swap images and that's fine its all kind of "in the club". All these images could almost be like adult trading cards, Memory of Melanie cards if you will sure some people wont share but others may,. How to know if you have all that exists in the ever growing set? I will in each image taken ensure i am holding or have written on me a number, and ill keep track and keep them chronological. Right-o who wants the first of the set?

Department of Immigration brought to their senses.

Last few months been a bit of a downer. My husband got fired without warning a few moths back. Since he was on a sponsored business visa, he had to apply for another visa or leave country in 28 days. So we put in a spouse visa application, having been married over 12 months already. Seems they liked him, and not so much me. Requiring more business docs from me and a statutory declaration describing my previous de facto relationships and why they ended to prove i wasn't just relationship hopping and that this would last.

Later on however, after giving all the extra documents required it seemed that everything still wasn't right. The case manager had issues with my career choice, and if it effected the genuine nature of our relationship - since it isn't sexually exclusive. We opted to provide further statutory declarations justifying why my career doesn't prevent our relationship from being genuine to save potentially requiring another interview and their judgement becoming a turn down and us having to appeal.

They recently came to their senses and the first part of the visa has now been granted normal life may resume. A huge emotional weight has been listed. It's very stressful to feel judged for your life in a way you haven't before, and for someone else to get to decide if you are genuinely in love or not.

The bulk of our statements follow.

Paul's Statement:

I do solemnly and sincerely declare that I do not believe that the occupation of my partner, does not come into conflict with our shared life. I do not subscribe to the position that the sexual relations with others, necessitated by my partner's occupation, are in conflict with the intimacy that we share.

When I first talked to my partner on the Internet, she introduced herself as a sex worker. Even from then it was clear to me that she is not ashamed of her work. From her perspective, she is providing a service that is all about making people happy. Clients come from various walks of life, but all share some feeling of loneliness, and so it is her job to help them.

There is a commonly held assumption that clients of sex workers are somehow perverted, but I do not believe this is the case. I believe that clients are typically just looking for some way to feel less alone. This typically comes from a mixture of talking or sexual intimacy. In effect, they are paying for a temporary partner which matches what they want from a real partner. This amounts to the client basically paying for a date and paying for the partner to pretend to enjoy it, whatever happens.

I am not ignorant of her work. If my partner has an interesting story about work then she will tell it to me, just as I would to her. As I recognise that it is just a job, I do not see anything odd about this. Clients and workers often associate outside of work at various get-togethers, which I have attended.

I have struggled to understand why some people see it as an unworthy profession. Like acting, it is a usage of your body and mind designed to provoke enjoyment. However, because a large part of the job is sexual, it provokes criticism from many directions. Particularly from religious organisations.

Personally, I consider myself to be a Buddhist. The only important argument here is whether or not sex work promotes positive or negative karma. If the sole intention of a sex worker is to bring happiness, then it can only be considered positively karmic. If anything, I am proud of the amount of happiness she brings to other people.

If my partner was a cook, should I be expected to be jealous that she wasn't cooking for me while she was at work, or that it might somehow detract from the cooking that she does for me at home? Should I be insecure that she might prefer cooking for other people and never cook for me again? Should getting paid to be a cook lead one to be less willing to cook in home-life?

My partner being intimate with others in the course of her work does not negatively impact our shared life, because I know that her work is not about providing genuine love. It is simply a service designed to bring happiness. My own relationship is founded on love. I know that because she loves me and not her clients, I am the one who is special. This is the difference between the sex she has with them and the sex with love that she has with me.

If my partner's sexual intimacy with others in the course of her work is equivalent to her intimacy with me, the implication must be that she loves all of her clients. I feel that this implication is erroneous because of the inherent absurdity of her being in love with so many people. From my perspective, it must be assumed that her work is not about love, and so cannot infract on ours.

The previous points cover why I am accepting of my partner's work. I have not seen and cannot seen any evidence as to why it would negatively impact on our relationship.

From meeting other sex workers, the commonality of sex workers having partners and children does not appear to be abnormal to me. In the scheme of things, sex workers are not unusual people.

Sex workers typically divulge information about their occupation to their children on an age-appropriate basis. None of the adults I've met who had a parent who was a sex worker are judgemental of that fact.

Part of my my verbose statement:

The thoughts and opinions expressed below are held personally by me, and are my best effort to elucidate how my work life and personal life interact.

Sex workers face stigma and the discrimination it brings at almost every turn of a regular life. It is a constant struggle to make people think about why they have their views and challenge their deep-seated but often, baseless beliefs. Sometimes it's a misguided pity from those who see all sex workers as victims, not the empowered people that so many are - especially of all the fantastic workers I know. Sometimes it's just a lack of understanding what sex, love, honesty and fidelity really mean in practice in non-biblical situations. In this case, to me it feels that the specific aspect of Paul and I's life together is whether my occupation of being an intimate actor prevents us from having a genuine loving relationship; I developed this notion during a phone conversation with our case manager regarding the legal definitions of a shared life.

I feel that by drawing any judgement or hesitation against the nature of my relationship, I am virtually being stripped of the ability to love or be loved in any genuine way. Of all the stigma I have had to face because of my career choice this is the most offensive of all. It is saying that sex workers are removed of one of the most basic human emotions - from both sides of the equation. Words can not express how deeply painful is to feel judged as almost subhuman.

I will start by explaining how sex work sits in my mind. I may not have started my career in the best of situations - and many workers I know didn't. But it isn’t the work it self that makes it hard to decide to get started in the industry, its the fear of what the rest of society will think, how you will be judged - deciding to take all that on is not always an easy decision. For me, once crossing the line from ordinary citizen to sex worker (as to so many you are suddenly different for no logical reason) I soon felt more empowered, had more self esteem and felt more accepted in my work environment than I ever had in any situation in my life before. What got me started working and what kept me at it were totally different things.

After my first ever client in a little run down brothel in Marrickville, I sat on the arm of the lounge in the girl’s room and stared blankly at the wall above the TV. Other girls gathered around to check I was OK, as they were concerned something bad had happened. I explained to them, the only shock I had, was that I expected to feel bad, or dirty, different or somehow changed by that single experience - and I wasn't - I felt exactly the same. I honed my skills with much practice and mentoring from the women I worked with. I felt fantastic being sought after, being chosen instead of others I’d had considered better looking than myself, spending time with people from all walks of life, feeling supported and cared for by co-workers it was almost like a fantastic party on any night.

I looked at my “normal” job, corporate life, how miserable and stressed it seemed to make everyone. I can almost feel that much misery around me, and I just couldn’t take that anymore.

There are a lot of events that have transpired in my life which have been very painful and upsetting. I feel I have copped an unfairly large dose of awful things in my life, and when I get everything great and I’m happy, soon enough some thing else hits the proverbial fan and it all falls down. It has become vitally important to me to create more happiness and positive energy in the world as I don’t want others to have to feel as down as I have at times.

To me that’s what my current job is, to make people happy - even if it’s just one person at time. If I can make just one person feel happier having spent time with me, then the world is a slightly happier place. Some people will tell you upfront what it is they seek, but figuring out the fine details of what people want can be tricky. What people say they want and what they do, can differ and I must quickly figure out what people are really seeking and become that. Perhaps it’s being more dominant and controlling, or it’s being very bold and talking dirty, perhaps it being a particular character, just being bubbly and fun. Most of the time they want it to feel real, to feel there is an intimate connection amongst the rest of the uniforms, toys, fisting and what not.

The art of creating intimacy - I learn from books, movies and real life, and imitate things in an orchestrated way. For someone who wants to feel close to another person a natural pace and vibe must be made, conversation, curiosity of them, their work, their interests - regardless of if they match mine. I do like learning about what makes people tick, but people enjoy having someone who is interested in what other people wont listen to them talk about, someone who asks questions and wants to know more. A clothed conversation that becomes one of more personal matters, thoughts, experiences, and slowly becomes contact, a slight brush before anything more complete, though what everyone is there for is well known as the business side of things was sorted before it all began. Making a kind of progression from strangers to lovers feel more normal though it is over a shorter time frame. I know how to make them feel there is nothing else in the world at that moment. It's like creating a Hollywood scene every time, but the exact content varies with every individual so it is always a challenge. I am an actor of the highest level, its not just a visual, I must create the right vibe, the right sensations and write my own script all on the fly. Being physically capable of having sex and being a skilled sex worker is not the same thing. So many people cannot express their own real intimacy with someone they love let alone create a perfect illusion of it for someone they have never met before.

Its a form of method acting for me, I become Melanie and almost cease to be myself, some elements shine through but its a totally different feeling. Almost slightly removed, like I am behind a computer screen controlling this character in an alternate reality. I can switch at will. I have shown partners, including Paul, my work mode so the difference can be seen and gauged and I can be told of what is noticed. The difference between Me and Melanie has always been very apparent to those I have shown both versions to.

I am more naturally submissive, and a little shy, and I relax and just do what I feel, which often will not be perfect, but real life isn't.

Having this contrast of sex without emotional involvement or love, to that with much emotion and love when I am with Paul, makes my connection to Paul ever so more apparent. To me it is it’s very powerful to be able to so clearly see the difference. In time many monogamous relationships often lose sight of how much better having a connection is, and take it, and each other for granted. People cease to make all the special little efforts, as they don’t really understand how much they do love their partners. Having so much contact with people does not lessen the impact of being touched by someone you love - it heightens it - I really understand everyday just how important to me Paul is. A touch from anyone is just a touch – a touch from someone you love is an electric charge – jolting through your skin and even further fuelling your love.

Being open about all aspects of sexuality I feel is something that make a sexual relationship much healthier. With more experience you become very comfortable about yourself very understanding of issues that others can have. This makes a very safe environment for exploration. More sexual activity I get the more I want, so my work “sex life” doesn’t take away from that to home, if anything it helps.

My relationship with Paul is built firmly on openness and honesty, with a complete lack of secrets. The only things we don’t know of each other is things that haven’t come up in conversations of yet. Many people find this a difficult notion, as it seems too common for people not to speak of past relationships, random inner thoughts or where google may take you late at night when you are alone. I strongly disagree with those who say some secrets are good, keeps some mystery, to me that’s a cop out – you should be able to tell anything to your partner and have them understand, or want to know more and accept whatever it is, good or bad as part of you. People are so complex that even if you talk, all, of everyday, still there will be more to know, more as their life experiences continue to change. If you love someone for who they truly are then you embrace every aspect of their being, right, wrong, good, bad or otherwise, as it is all these factors that make them who they are. Paul and I have this, and it is something special – probably more special than what most people I have ever spoken to seem to have. Paul and I fully accept each other as we are and don’t wish to change anything about each other, whilst my side of the equation may seem non-standard in terms of my life, this has never been an issue for Paul and he is the only person I have ever met who doesn’t wish to change anything about me. Some find this amazing when so many find it difficult to have such a thing when they have a more “normal” life – everybody has some very “unique” qualities and interests – perhaps if people opened up and shared more they’d find others who find all these previously hidden aspects very appealing.

Talking about everything includes honest and frank discussions of work, his and mine. I will talk of amusing events or interesting conversations I’ve had with people during the day. When going to particular bookings as well as the run-down on where I’ll be for safety reasons, I will comment if it’s a regular client, or there is specific requests or anything potentially noteworthy – just as anyone would with any job. My career choice is not something known but otherwise ignored, it’s not something we accept but pretend it doesn’t happen or gloss over what it involves. Paul is aware of every aspect of my work, and much probably in more detail than its even interesting to know. When I have other friends who are in the same industry around socially often the discussion turns to work, swapping amusing stories, scary stories, gross stories or tips on how to manage with aspects of clients physical properties. Paul usually tends to tune out – when I have asked him if there is an issue if it’s all a bit graphic he has always said it isn’t he just gets bored when we all talk shop, as its always virtually the same conversation.

Paul has never showed any signs of jealousy, he is not insecure and because we talk of everything he knows, nothing else, and no one else is a threat to him. I feel he understands how sex and love are totally separate concepts, and whilst they are much better together they aren’t interdependent.

Being paid to do something you otherwise probably wouldn’t bother to, is a normal part of life - finding a career that suits you, in terms of hours worked, pay, interest in the job, use of skills and alignment of person beliefs is a huge bonus. Doing your job, even if you do enjoy it now and then does not take way from your ability to do something seemingly similar because you want to, because you genuinely care or love someone. Someone who works as a psychologist listens to peoples worries and concerns all day, showing concern and trying to assist – this does not take way from their ability to genuinely care and support their partner when discussing issues, if anything they more able to help as they know how best to. Someone who works in child care, takes care of children everyday, teaching, helping, feeding – this does not take away from their ability to genuinely care and love their own children, they are not lesser parents because they are paid to be a stand in parent for other children, if anything they are more able to nurture their children as they know the best way and have much experience in doing so. Similarly someone who works as a sex worker spends all day comforting people, being intimate, showing care and interest – this does not take away from their ability to genuinely comfort and be intimate with someone they love, or to care about them and be interested in them – if anything they are more able to express all these things as they know the best way to do so.

I was on TV

http://news.sbs.com.au/insight/episode/index/id/97

I was on an episode of Insight on SBS is on sex and consent, as part of the discussion panel which they mix in with the audience. You can watch it online at the above link. I only ended up getting to talk twice, and I was cut off by the host. I think I look terrible, but others seems to have said I looked great and came across well. They might just be being nice - have a look and make up your own mind.

I had 4 phone interviews and a bunch of questions on email - my email Q&A for interest and transcript sections follow.

Transcript:

JENNY BROCKIE: Melanie, can I bring you in at this point, you’re a sex worker and you sometimes have sex with multiple men, I'm interested in how quickly that can get out of control from your perspective?

MELANIE ROBINSON, ESCORT: It totally depends on the situation and the sort of people that there are. Certainly if there is alcohol or other chemicals involved that becomes a problem. I don't think it's as much that people don't care what's happening to the woman as much as they're just not aware of it. They're very focused, they're very in their own sort of space and they're just going what they feel and I think that if you pipe up loud enough and make them like bring them back to Earth and go like look, this isn't cool, it can be harder to get through to them if they're a built more effected and say look, this really isn't cool and they'll go "Oh, really, I didn't mean to."

JENNY BROCKIE: But you're in a transaction, like a financial transaction and in a sense you've got a bit ‑ have you got more power or less power than in your personal life.

MELANIE ROBINSON: It depends. For me personally I consider in that situation that I do have power but I would consider that in any situation, even though group sex in my personal life. Anything in my personal life I too actually probably stand up more because I don't feel I have anything that I have to give them. Not that I have to.

JENNY BROCKIE: And when I mean power I mean also protection - like you take precautions, yeah, when you're having group sex.

MELANIE ROBINSON: I do but at the same time.

JENNY BROCKIE: And you have a security guard sometimes in the room, is that right.

MELANIE ROBINSON: Yes, I do. But it still depends on ‑

JENNY BROCKIE: Which is not going to happen if other situations for that people.

MELANIE ROBINSON: Men nah that situation, depending on their attitude think well, I've paid for this girl, it's not like this girl's come into our room and she wants to have a go. It's like we've paid this girl and some people have the attitude they don't realise they've paid for a service. They've paid for my time. They haven't paid to rent and do whatever the hell they please.

Later in the show:

PROFESSOR MOIRA CARMODY: I don't think it is and I think that's fundamentally why we end up in these debates where people get polarised because consent is a process. The fact that you go home with somebody doesn't necessarily give you any indication of what you're consenting to. You don't know what's in that person's mind, what they're fantasising about, what their desires are, what your desires are and whether they match. I mean one of the things in terms of sex work, for example, is clearly negotiated situation of what's on offer, what's the price is and what's going to happen. Now we can learn a lot from those sort of situations. Why don't we ‑

JENNY BROCKIE: Well Melanie's shaking her head up here as a sex worker to say that's not what it's like. Why Melanie?

MELANIE ROBINSON: Full service is expected to be massage, oral sex with a condom and sexual intercourse. It doesn't have to include that but that's generally what would be expected. Anything beyond that may be negotiated before hand, it may not be. And to me one of the vital skills that all the sex workers have is being able to pick what people want, what they don't want, sometimes you do ask specifically. I'll ask is this fine? I could be cute about it but it's trying to pick up on the little things that they want.

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1. You said you have been working as a sex worker for 7 years - why did you get into the profession?

Yes It's heading towards 7 years - What I'd said on the phone was that why people start working and why they continue to can be very different things. For many when they first start sex work, its maybe not always the best of circumstances, but it's not the work that’s a deterrent you wouldn't consider it if you had some inerrant problem with having sex with multiple people, it’s the stigma that surrounds the industry. Deciding to take on the rest of society's opinions of what you do, and what sort of person you must be if you do is not an easy decision. Why people who have no issues with sex before marriage, or working( doing things you probably wouldn’t otherwise bother with except for the fact you are being paid) have such a different view when the two are combined is just illogical. I prefer not to focus on why I initially started but more why I continued, and came back to the industry even when I stopped at various times. Having worked in various industries I finally settled on my career choice after realising how many jobs just create more work or stress, and the corporate office politics just make people miserable, I want to make people happy, and I consider that’s what my job is - to make people happy - even if its just one person who feels a bit happier having spent an hour with me then I am creating more positive energy in the world, and I can see the effect directly.

My philosophy of the industry has deepened over the years as I considered it more deeply, however I have numerous writings in my blog from past years. I don't edit entries or even proof read I just write them and how they come out raw is how they are published.

Some of the early ones may be of interest to you, Also if you look at my blog in general you will find scans of the 2 page cosmopolitan interview with me, and a half page in MX from he other year whe I won the Best Escort Award at the Australian Adult Industry Awards.

How did I get into the sex industry???
My First job.....
In and Out...

2. Was it quite difficult when you first started out to set clear boundaries?

It can be difficult at first to set boundaries when you aren't quite sure what you are comfortable with, where you boundaries indeed are. Depending on level of sexual experience and exploration you have done before, if someone asks if you will X it's hard to know if you may or may not want to if you haven't done that before, I would just say if I hadn't done that before and that I'd give it a go but they'd have to stop if I changed my mind - never seemed to be an issue - despite what extreme feminist media says - they majority of men do not want to abuse women and if they know you really aren't happy they won't continue. As a first time worker I was peer educated and supported by the other women I worked with. The main point has always stuck and I've passed it on the same - when you are in the room with the client, you are in charge, you are in control, he/she has paid for a service as agreed, they don't own you and its not a free run to do anything they like. Full service is generally considered to be a massage, protected oral and sex, anything beyond that is at the individuals discretion, and if thy charge extra for any particular things it's also up to them. What positions you will do is also a choice and my peers suggest which to avoid to ensure I will always have control of what was happening, how to keep a hand on a man once the condom was on to ensure he didn’t try to sneakily remove it. I was taught how to avoid what I didn't want to do in a nice way rather than just killing the mod and saying no don't do that. How to suggest to me more gentle in a cute or sweet way, or just to suggest something a bit different saying I'd enjoy it more. Most men do want to see the woman enjoying herself and are more tan happy to take tips and pointers rather than have to figure it out themselves. At various points I have done things I maybe didn't enjoy or were a bit uncomfortable, I do sometimes feel pressure to please the client as best I can as that’s what I'm being aid for, but nothing to the point I'm unhappy, just maybe positioning that’s uncomfortable but seems to be working very well, or if im getting sore but he is nearly there, just hanging in there a little while longer so he can finish rather than chop and change and it take longer again with the break. I get to make the choice though. In a non work setting there is no requirement of any acts, or that you should be pleasing the other person unless you want to, personal life you are there ultimately in my mind to please yourself, and if what's happening isn't amongst that then you have a duty to yourself to see that the flow of events changes.

3. Can you describe a situation where it has got out of control -how did you regain control?

There are always various points when things can get a little bit out of control, in the heat of the moment people get carried away, they might grab, pinch, bite or go extra hard without thinking about it. They don't mean to, and I see it as a good thing they are so lost in the moment they aren't thinking, a yeah that hurt, I don't like that, lets change position will bring them back to normal thought quickly and then its fine. If people are intoxicated being very direct or repeating more loudly can be necessary as they are even less aware of their surroundings, very drunk people often become excessively apologetic when they realise they did something bad, as it wasn't their intention. People become more basic when very turned on, or when drunk, so combine them and people think quite simply and just follow their urges, they won't notice subtle signs, and will confuse quiet words with maybe soft mumblings or moans as they are quite focused. The most out of control as situation I've had that springs to mind was a very drunk gentlemen in a Melbourne brothel, He spoke to me in a very disrespectful way and help grabbing me by the hair or pushing me about ordering me what to do. Being cute ad nicely suggestive didn't work, so I quickly became louder and very firm in my tone and body language - things he couldn't ignore. I told him I did know what I was doing, and that being forceful and pushing me about was not making it easy for me to do what I was good at he tried to grab me again. I shoved him back an told him to lie the f*ck down, and I'd show him a very good time, and if he continued to speak badly to me or push me around I'd just leave the room ad management would throw him out. He complied and I went about my work, he even extended an extra hour and was very well behaved.

4. In BDSM you mentioned you have key words....are their other rules to set the boundaries?

In role play and fantasy situations such as BDSM style scenes, a safe word is often chosen, a safe signal is chosen if the person is unable to speak or will be unable to speak. Being able to say No, and don't etc can be an important part of the fantasy so an agreed safe word is negotiated beforehand A safe word is usually chosen by the individual and is something outlandish - something you would never say in the scene, and all other protests will be ignored but if the safe word is used everything immediately stops. Some people use the safe word as a pause to break the scene discuss issue and continue at lesser level, I prefer it to be a complete abort as it encourages people to push their boundaries as was their original intention. Some people use green, amber and red, like traffic lights to check at various points what level the person is at to know if to go harder or back off or keep it as it is. The person in the power situation is responsible for those submitting, and must carefully monitor reactions blood flow in certain restraint positions et, never leave a restrained person unattended create the illusion of it sure - but not actually do it. Generally before a strict role-play scenario all the limits are discussed and what the person is looking to get out of it, and where they want to be pushed more, what sort of force they are comfortable with and so on.

5. Is consent negotiated before? during? the sex

Consent to me is an ongoing thing, everyone maintains the right to say no at any point before or during, but when its after it ceases being against will and becomes more of a bad decision, changing one's mind after the fact is more a transference of blame when they they rethink and decide maybe they didn’t want to or shouldn’t have done that. Asking if people are ok if their expression is maybe not what you'd expect or they are avoiding eye contact, if they like what you are doing, ask them to tell you when they'd like to try a different position or something else. As a good lover, even if its only a short term one you should be making sure the person you are with is happy and enjoying everything. In many non-work or non-prenegotiated situations a yes I want to do x,y,z is not explicitly stated people just go with the flow, and its important to remember that if if consent is implied by the persons response or actions it doesn't mean it can't be revoked explicitly at any time. Saying you don’t like something and would prefer something else is a softer way to change what's happening, but someone should always be prepared to say No if they don't want something out of respect or themselves, the vast majority of people don't want to abuse anyone and if you make them unquestionably aware you are not cool with what's happening they will stop. People will internally pressure themselves not to say no however, if they don't want to kill the mood thinking it will end soon, or if they really like the person in general as a fan - not wanting to upset them, but really if you opt not to tell tem to stop when you aren't happy you are not removing your consent, and if they don't know you changed your mind - how can they be expected to stop? This doesn't mean someone who didn't say no does not feel abused after, and they should be counseled accordingly, their feelings are valid, but if the other party had no idea anything was wrong they weren't really abusive and would probably be mortified to learn that that’s how they were seen to be. There is more than one side to the truth in every situation and even if people views are at odds they can still both be correct. It's like looking at a box with different coloured sides from opposite angles, I may see the box has 2 red sides and a yellow side, and you see 2 blue sides and a yellow side, we can argue til the cows come home about what the main colour of the box is, but we are both right, and need to accept that if you consider what the other persons point of view may be, that you are both right from your perspective. I think part of sex education in school should be about deciding what your limits are, and how to make others aware of these by direct and indirect ways, and when if intoxicated is not the time to start reconsidering your boundaries, if you want you can always try again when sober with the person and explore further.

6. You said you had a three warnings your out rule -how does this work?

Over years of building up my people and negotiating skills, I have a very set way about how I deal with people doing things I don’t want. It may be pinching or pulling at my nipples or labia too hard or anything that I just don't like. First warning a cute warning with a suggestion of something different "Ow - they are attached, I like them like that [giggle]- be more gentle I like it if you just touch very gently" if they comply visually at least appear to appreciate the different sensation. Second warning more serious unhappy tone - "Ouch, that hurts, I told you I don't like that, please don't do it again" Third warning very serious, no kidding, deadpan expression ultimatum style - "I specifically told you not to do that, do that again and I'll punch you, and yes I have punched people before." If they do it again - whammo I have only have to hit 2-3 people so far - the majority get the hint at the first warning.

7. You mentioned in group situations you have a security person in the room -why? is this only for group situations?

I require security in the room for larger group situation bookings, it's to make people are behaving well. Sometimes people have a misguided view that oh I paid you now I own you for the next hour or whatever, and consider that payment is some irrevocable consent. I've only had people like that 1 on 1 and I can handle one person with that attitude, I don't want to find myself with 4 or more people sporting that attitude as I have little power in that situation. In most group situations people now the boundaries as they were told and respect them and its just a fun time. I also require security to be in the room for situations if I am being submissive and it will involve any restraint. Being physically restrained and imobilised with someone who you know wants to be rough and spank you is one thing - trusting them to stop when you say the safe word is another. Security presence even if its low key and out of view keeps them in line and if they get outta line there is someone who will make sure they comply with my removal of consent, not necessarily they would continue maliciously but if they get caught in the moment there is someone else to make them stop.

8. Has there been a situation where you have misunderstood someone and their boundaries?

None that spring to mind, I am very careful to discuss power play situations before hand and use of safe words Any signs of people maybe being of ill ease in normal situations I always check how they are, as if that was a good expression, if they like what im doing or if they like me to whatever and if they say whatever you want I say that I don't want to do anything that will make them uncomfortable, even if its referring to something they obviously want to it's just remind them they can say no or suggest other things. If people say I can do anything I want, I'll make some extreme suggestions of things I may want that they wouldn't so they say no I don't want that, so that then I tell them it's not just anything I need to know what they do want, it sets boundaries and also give me a clear direction as to my goals.

9. You mentioned that there is a stigma in your profession -have you ever experienced that from men 'she's up for anything she is a sex worker' kind of attitude?

Stigma is more around sex work being considered a lesser profession and a roll on from that as to what type of people sex workers are, or assuming sex workers are diseased when research of the STI prevalence in NSW sex workers specifically is lower than that of the general population. I am unsure if you are asking in terms of my private life, when in sexual situations or in work life. Work life I have touched on as above. personal life I have found if anything people are less expecting of me to do anything, I am unsure if its as they know I definitely know what I am up for, feel intimidated for their comparative lack of sexual experience or just feel lucky to be with someone who knows what they are doing and isn't being paid, I have found people are out to please me first instead of focusing on themselves.

10. In your eyes is consent as simple as yes or no?

No.

Tempted to leave it at that for amusing factor, but I think whilst consent is not always a straight forward yes, if you are not consenting it should be a clear no, no with alternative option perhaps- but it shouldn’t be an unclear no when something is no longer wanted.

Photographers Wanted

Are you a photographer or at least an aspiring one?

If so I am looking for people who are interested in doing TFP/CD shoots with me.

You will need;

Your own equipment of suitable level, a camera phone or low end digital snapper won't do.

Lighting or reflectors where necessary.

A unique concept, general glamour, something ive virtually done or naked chick on rocks wont do. Please note I won't do porn pictures or pictures that include pink bits or a genital region focus, implied nude, obstructed nude and deep shadow is ok. Discus with me if necessary.

Provide a model release which includes giving me full right to use images on my site and elsewhere as I please. Give me right to edit and modify as I please. On my website you will be credited with link to your site or folio.

To provide a copy of all images from shoot at full resolution, you may choose to touch up/ edit some as well and I probably will also.

Be available to shoot mid week as my weekends are otherwise occupied.

Be able to shoot on central coast, within reasonable travel distance from my home, unless you already have an existing set up studio.

Email me with your expression of interest or questions.

melanieofsydney@hotmail.com

New Photos Added

New Pictures added to my gallery today, my husband Paul took these yesterday while at the beach. Go to my gallery and follow links to see the full resolution images - most of them 10 megapixels!

Blogging for the sake of it

I keep thinking i should wait to blog til I have something suitably fantastically interesting to write about, but then it takes over 6 months and well yeah, that is kinda crap. Thus I decided I would just sit down and have a bit of a yap.

End of last year - other than the tours and Scarlet Alliance Annual forum - was reasonably uneventful.

I did get a new camera for my birthday though here are some random shots taken with it...

This is our rat, Ellanor Roosevelt

She likes cake

I am very proud of this pic, its raw but short focus and taken in my garden

bees with a bottle brush in my garden

escaped bits of bottle brush caught in a somewhat dead bush, bin lids in background

A gardenia bud, gardenias are my fave flowers and luckily this place is surrounded with them

view from my front door

Inside of a bell

out of focus but Ellanor yawning

Save the animals type picture through bars, she looks so cute and sad - she wants the chocolate I'm holding

Some odd little bug on our wall, its in way of projector, the squares are individual pixels so you can tell its quite small.

Cigarette is coming - I am actively encouraging people to smoke, iI consider non-smokers who push their belief much like a rleigous group, so im pushing the alternative.

A crack in a train seat on an intercity train

I like high voltage power poles, this one is in Melbourne in docks area

Picture of that bloody big bridge in Melbourne

Me sitting in a bar in Southbank in QLD my friend took this.

V the choice of champions - I'm a champion :)

Paul's birthday cake featuring Bob Dobbs - what a mixed religion standpaoint we have, the cake is belgian choc mud wit a creamcheese and bacon filling.

A rainbow with storm clouds, I had the camera shooting in fast bursts but kept just missing the lighning, i wanted ligning and rainbow in same pic its taken from my verandah.

For xmas as a gift to each other of sorts we got a new car, well not new new but new for us, went to look at a Mitsubishi but ended up with a Merc :) Was kind of impulse buy, in the way that whilst we planned to get a car, I just felt like going to buy one, one particular Tuesday.

We got Guitar Hero World Tour, full box set with drums mic and guitar im not too bad at drumming, and i can get good points singing but i have to sing so high to get the pitch it still sounds awful. Can play online with people, so if you own it on wii let me know we can play, alternatively im thinking of doing a kind of GHWT promo, come and play with me at my place for an incall and then play some GHWT after for a bit, dnno yet, but i might have to take some promo shots tomorrow, with GH controllers and the drum kit, sans clothing as usual :)

I have been heavily into Chris Sawyers Locomotion, so if anyone else plays that I'd like to multiplay online :)

New Reviews

For those of you who don't live at Fun in Australia I have put my 4 latest reviews over on my reviews page.

You will find such wondrous quotes as "fun session blessed by her genuine enthusiasm for sex", "Oh and the Sex was great as well", "has a mean array of toys" and "try out her behind the knee move"

24th - 30th November

Brisbane I will be in Brisbane attending training and conference. This is not advertising of services just notification of my travels.

17th - 22nd November 2008

Melbourne The much anticipated and requested tour of Melbourne. I will be putting up advertising shortly, this is a notification of my travels not advertising of services- compliant advertising will be available shortly once my PCA comes through. I can however tell you I will be spending some time at Spellbound.