I posted this on FIA
here
but im quite proud of this little rant so im going to publish it here, this is in response to a topic about married me losing interest and stuff about making relationships work etc.
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well with the list of things a woman would ideally want - my partners on a good thing - but alas he must share me - that
level of sexual drive equals more than the man can give. I have an open relationship so I can happily play away from home and outside work with who i choose, but its always honest and whenever we venture off in different directions we come back and swap explicit details (usually while having sex together) and that works well for us.
I think its not monogamy in a relationship that is important it is the companionship, the love and the honesty. I think for a relationship to work as well as it can with 2 people you shouldnt have secrets - you shouldnt feel like you need to have them - sometimes it can be hard to come out with them but its sooo much better when you do. your guilt over keeping something can sabotage your feelings and behaviours to your partner. That said you needed to have this level of honesty from the start - you cant come out with ur secret history of seeing WL every week 10 or 20 years into a marriage - its not gonna work.
When finding someone you should be honest about what ur into , if you like the variety hell ideally she is bi - and you can enjoy the variety together or go swinging together - have your sexual fun with others sometimes - its just bonking - but actually make love together - emotional sex is oh so much better -but it doesnt stop u from wanting a quick hot shag with a co worker after uve been on the piss at the christmas party.
For me - i hope my partner gets round to proposing to me at some stage - we are soulmates we know everything about each other, we are always here for each other and he is very comfortable with how i like to have my life - wish me luck
(oh yeh just to rub it in I cook, I clean, I bake, I sew, I like to suck, I like anal, I like sex every which way, and I like being eaten, and i like bringing other girls home to join us)
