A response I made to a thread about worker skills training

There are quite a few skill sharing workshops around and often at the Scarlet Alliance Annual forum where people share all sorts of tricks and tips, learn how to put condoms on with their mouth, talk about some basics of fantasy and role play how to play safe if doing some domming, the correct way to explore someone anally to ensure you don't damage them by just sticking it up there. How to read people, how to watch for those who interfere with condoms, how to make sure you have one hand for yo and one for client and that you don't touch outside of condom with had you were sing on him before that thus putting precum all on the outside of the condom, watching to ensure the client doesn't touch themselves and then you with the same hand again fluid sharing. See people demonstrate various types of body slide ad massage techniques, post climax penis massage techniques that aren't over stimulating but good for come down. there was also a bj course in Newtown last year, dildos used as practice.

Some workers focus on providing services to those with a disability - people who often lack intimacy and feel unable to experience it any other way. there is a formal course for disability awareness run by Touching Base - they run it every year I have done it before and for those interested there is a workers only one being held in Sydney this year close to Scarlet's annual forum.

There is much "training" to be had mostly informally, and much of it happens in the staff rooms of brothels as people discuss their experiences. I think to an extent the flourish of new workers straight to private scene means loads of people never have access, or a awareness of it. This doesn't mean they are less skilled - many people who enter the industry are naturally sexually and intimately skilled, but I often get calls via the Sex Workers Union of people who don't know how to deal with problem clients, and often these people do end up at more personal risk. people don't know where to get free equipment, testing immunisation and support. Dealing with people well comes with experience, and often that's something you get right after you needed it, be it telling who is likely to waste your time on the phone, not show up or how to deal with people who are intoxicated or otherwise chemically effected. Likewise what sort of things can make someone who may have erectile issues or other personal concerns comfortable, and feel accepted doesn't come naturally to everyone. Bit like someone who is a good listener, vs a trained social worker or psychologist, some people just have a natural knack for it and some people all the training in the world wont help, but some extra knowledge to the natural gifted only makes them more impressive.

There is no formal courses in general sex worker skills though, this diminishes what everyone can bring from their experience, some things don't work for some people so there so no tried and true way, but there are some basics which won't lead you astray.

I don't think a course would make everyone robots, if it was done from a theoretical way. What are you trying to create for the person you are with is the primary consideration. Also how to bring your personality to a session as this is the thing that make you different to everyone else. I think that a hooker philosophy group would be very valuable however. Discussing needs and how to meet those, how to be in the right receptive mood so you can form a connection, what types of things people can do and what it means to people - like the head touching. I think a business around this would be contrary to a sense of community that is often felt at worker skill sharing. I personally happy share all my ideas and tricks as it were, my blog in great detail about how I give a blowjob is an example of this - I have been told by many workers it has given them more ideas and inspiration for their on work. I feel that when someone is just working for money and doesn't have pride in what they do it creates a bad impression of much of the industry. if a first time client sees someone who doesn't make any effort and clearly shows they have no interest at all not even enough to try and act like they care, this client forms a judgement on how workers are, feels scorns and never hires a service from anyone again. That removes that client from the pool of potential business so to speak, so someone doing a lousy service can in part damage everyone's potential business. The same goes for false advertising, misleading promises, and fake pictures.

Personally I find it sad when I see people saying hookers don't care they just want your money no exceptions. These people have been burned and that's awful. Same could be said for doctors, social workers, nurses whoever is doing a caring role, but it isn't as often, people can charge for a caring role, be it intimate personally and/or sexually and still have genuine care for the people they see. Mostly of the workers I know - which is a great deal - do not just see heir clients as a wallet with genitals some do and then I think they are in the wrong job.

Personally I learn well from myself I am a naturally caring person sometimes too much so and to my detriment and sex is my main interest in life, partly from physical need and much from an intellectual side of feeling I can communicate with people in a totally honest way and understand what makes them tick. I get great satisfaction from knowing I can make people feel even a bit happier trough what I an do for them. I get myself in the right head-space for sessions so I am primed to fall in love/lust temporarily - like having a big crush on someone. If you focus on a want and an emptiness and psyche yourself to believe that the net person you see will be perfect for that it's very simple then to want to be with them. Pretty much everyone has positive points be it physically or personality - focus on the good, ignore the bad - rosy glasses, the same blindness you have when you fall for someone, a times some firm focus is required to keep the blinkers on however. In my personal life I take note of what I do with people I am genuinely in love/lust with, little things, cute things, sexy things I bring these into sessions intentionally. I also take note of what I experience from others and how that makes me feel and bring those things as well, or similar things. Everyone is different but we are all hardwired the same, so somethings are pretty much universal, or fit into a few categories so it doesn't take too long to know what will suit whom. This may sound a bit calculated and cold but it isn't, it's like when you have a crush on someone and you try really hard to do things they would like, say things they would like to hear or give them things they appreciated, effort is not in-genuine.