The following is my response in a
topic on FIA to someone who posted about a relationship with a working lady that went sour. The poster mused whether working ladies were capable of loving at all, if they spend all their time lying to men having sex with people they wouldn't otherwise just to get money.
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Well reading this at first i was a bit offended, but on further thought and a small chat to my partner I have come to this conclusion.
Firstly 1 or 2 experiences if we count your friends is not a statistically significant sample.
Also some people never love anyone, and some people love many and some people see sex as a social activity not an emotional one, some people like being social with strangers.
Main thought however. lets say for arguments sake 20% of women are just bitches. And lets say 3% of women are working ladies. (these statistics are made up) There will be a portion of working ladies who are also bitches. I reckon you drew the short straw to start with and then you weren't happy with her working as well.
Not all working ladies are heartless bitches, but some are, no doubt the latter are better actors. I do generally have a good time with clients and don't have to put on a show. Of course you'll sit there and say Melanie's just saying that because she has to for marketing. Whilst that's certainly something that don't hurt, it's not the reason i bother to say anything in this topic. I love my boyfriend, I enjoy sex with strangers and I like chatting to people and messing about. My boyfriend understands I like working, but also know I love him and my view of sex. He doesn't feel threatened by me having sex with others be it for work or for fun. He gets more than enough sex from me on the contrary the only arguments we have is me not getting enough or kinky enough. He doesn't like things being stuck up his bum, I like doing it to people so he's glad I'm doing it to others. He gets looked after when he's sick, he gets dinner cooked most nights (and i cook like a champion) and we get on really well and share loads of interests.
Sex work doesn't make you disconnected necessarily, and its not all lies. Sure when I get a client who is a dickhead and talks to me and treats me like shit i gotta put on the act but thankfully the majority of clients aren't like that and even less so now im working privately and don't just see guys who happen to have cash and blue balls at the same time. The majority of guys who go to the effort to choose and see a private working lady and make a booking for not within 5 mins, are men who truely love and appreciate women, and don't just treat them like fuck dolls. Sure I am not in love with my clients, but plenty I am friends with. I enjoy sex with strangers, I like the unknown element, the anticipation of not quite knowing what will happen, in the good way. Sure sex is a bit methodic, you hug kiss touch a bit, have oral sex, maybe fuck or whatever, but its not the same thing over and over, everyone is different, everyone has different energy - sometimes its gentle and it flows effortlessly like you know each others bodies already, sometimes its raw and passionate and you're throwing each other all over the room, sometimes its all very casual and its just some fun and intimate touching intermixed with much joking and laughing.
I think more insecurity should come from ladies who don't spend the day lying than those who do. Anyone who is insecure will never be able to have a successful relationship with a working girl, either they think they are being lied to and are just another cock or they are too worried their girlfriend is enjoying herself with others and is worried they will take her away. Monogamy isn't essential for good relationships but trust and honesty is.
Plenty of other working ladies i know are well capable of loving for real, sure work is different to love, but all the girls who like their work seem to have a more pleasant view of the world than the sour picture you paint and want wipe over all the girls.
