I posted this in
a thread on FIA:
When it comes to interacting with a WL you are paying for the sex and hopefully the lady to at least pretend to be interested in you. Whilst some ladies may be fantabulous actors and very convincing, it isn't uncommon to have a good interesting and deep conversation, and for that to be genuine. It isn't uncommon to form a friendship of sorts even if the only time you meet is for a "transaction". Where I think many guys get a bit confused is that they are putting the whole package together, when it is in fact, distinct parts.
Assume ( From the man's point of view )
naked + sex + deep conversation + connection = relationship/love
But we need to break it down into parts.
The
naked and sex is the
business/transaction part.
naked + sex = business/transaction
So if we remove that from the equation (since that is only occurring because money has changed hands, whether or not the lady genuinely enjoys it is not relevant to the
why it is occurring) we are left with:
deep conversation + connection = ?
which alone
does not indicate
relationship/love. Take the deep conversation you have had with a working lady you are very fond of and move it to a different setting, lets say a cafe. Without the intimate environment the perspective on the same conversation changes. Thus...
deep conversation + connection = friendship
however
business/transaction + friendship ≠ relationship/love
which means
the original assumption is false.
My point is that it is very possible to have a "real" friendship with a working lady whilst still paying her for sex. But having paid sex with a friend doesn't make it any more than just friends. I think if you can remove the naked and sex part out of the context in which you think of the WL, you should have a much clearer view of what is really going on, and you will be far less likely to get hurt.
I have become good friends with quite a few of my clients, many I have known longer than my boyfriend and ex-boyfriend as well. I don't like to rule out anybody who could be a potential friend, you can never have too many good friends.
